Being poor students, Nate and I keep Valentines Day very simple. One day, maybe I’ll push for dinner and flowers and the whole nine yards, but for now, a brownie every year is enough.
Hope you get to spend today with people you love :)
PS. Check out the video on the Google homepage today, it’s adorable!
What do you think, hunh? How do you start your day? I am, 100% — no exceptions ever — a tea drinker. My mornings pretty much always start with a nice hot cup or travel mug of very dark (let seep for at a minimum of five minutes) English Breakfast tea (ew Earl Grey) with a hint of milk and sugar. One of the many super glorious things about England was that it was incredibly easy to get a good cup o’ tea. That “awake” stuff at Starbucks is not in any way what I’m talking about.
On the other hand, my significant other, Nathan, is a coffee fiend. He drinks tea, but really he’s all about coffee, coffee, coffee. I dunno, maybe I should just break up with him now, clearly it’s not meant to be…
Weigh in! Which do you prefer? A nice cup of jo? Or a spot of tea? Inquiring minds wanna know! Either way, happy last day of January!
Yesterday, a dear friend of mine (who shall remain nameless) was plagued with a dilemma: her friends of many years decided (or demanded) that she spend more time with them. They were particularly annoyed that she was hanging out with her boyfriend in lieu of hanging out with them. My friend does her best to juggle school, extra circulars, college woes, her relationship and her friendships but, really, a girl can only do so much. Where as these girl’s definition of a good time is to party and drink, my friend is happier with a more low key evening, snuggling on the couch in sweat pants and watching a movie with her bf. She loves her friends dearly, however in a way has outgrown them. Which for me begs the question: why can’t you dump friends like you can boyfriends?
With boyfriends, once they start to piss you off, in whatever which way, you have the option to dump their sorry ass and exile them from your life. Dumping friends, however, is a much stickier situation. You must wade through the relationship, waist deep in drama and annoyance, until the day you joyously (and purposefully) loose touch or move far away. It would save a lot of time and money to simple be able to say “I think we should see other people.” Friendship, however, does not work like that. I tried to “dump” a “friend” once, after months of turbulence– it blew up in my face and I still feel badly about the way I treated her. She was, however, a horrible friend. She was not supportive, self centered and had a penchant for telling stories that in no way could be true. When a partner treats you badly, you dump them; when a friend treats you badly you should have the same right. Yes, it’s hurtful and they won’t be happy with it, but overall if it’s not a healthy friendship then it’s for the better, right? There are good ways to dump someone and bad ways to dump someone but no matter how you do it, the other person will end up hurt and angry.
My sensibilities say that personal health trumps all. When it comes right down to it, this isn’t about them, this is about you and what you need to be happy. That may be selfish but life is too short to deal with a draining relationship. Right?
But as I proof read my bold statements and confident words, a wave of exasperation sweeps over me because I know that nothing is as clear cut as it unfolds in my pretty head. Friendships are complicated buggers and people tend to be dramatic. Sometimes moving to Australia doesn’t seem like such a bad choice. Kangaroos can’t possibly be this complex.
Can I be vomit-ous and cutesy for just a moment?
k, thanks.
For all my feminist ranting, my raging independent streak, my high standards and all together tough facade, sometimes I really miss my boyfriend and/or my best friend.
I used to really hate cutesy couples… until I became one.
(Sorry Liz!)
BUT I don’t think loving a man makes me or has made me any less of an independent feminist. It certainly has made me a happier one.
For those of you judging: I am not blindly devoted ( I promise), we are entirely equal partners (like I could have it any other way) and he feels the same way.
Unfortunately that photo is not of us, but I totally wish it was.
Camp update: The campers come friday!!! the past week has been unbelivably hard. I’m so ready to spend some time with happy chit-lins with smiles of gold and hugs of sweetness.
